To Spank or Not to Spank? Just say NO to Spanking!

      What do you think of parents slapping their kids? Do you believe in corporeal punishment?  Do you hit your child?

      It is inappropriate to slap, spank or hit a child.  Speak to your child, explain what's needed and wanted for the child.  Stop the objectionable behavior, use positive reinforcement, and give at least 10 yes's to each one no.  Have the child know she or he is still a good person.  Spare the rod, without spoiling the child.

     When a parent, whether mom or dad, spanks her/his child, the parent teaches the child that hitting, bullying, violence is the way to do things.  The child learns to be manipulative and to have lower self-esteem, and feels demeaned, less-than.  Why is this?  The child was disrespected by the parent who is supposed to love the child.  This also teaches great confusion about what love is and what love does.

    The child may or may not stop the objectionable behavior, not because the child learned anything but because the child prefers that the slapping or nasty verbal language and tone coming from the parent be stopped.  So, if the child has to agree with the parent, the child often will do so.  Did this mean the child learned the lesson the parent meant to teach?  No.

      Have I ever hit a child? Yes. Also, afterward, I felt I was the one who made the mistake. Always.  It was a bigger lesson for me than for the child, the few times in my life that I did it, spurring me to grow spiritually.  I also apologized to the child, and explained what needed to be done.

      Where are you with this?  Where are you with "spare the rod and spoil the child"? For me, it's ridiculous. Once at a lovely event, another mom and I had a difference of opinion about this, she feeling that because the Bible ostensibly taught this, she was totally justified to smack her daughter when her daughter misbehaved.  In fact, she felt I was disparaging of her religious beliefs because I told her the Bible was written in a patriarchical age by men who often had a dominating controlling mentality.  She was in a huff.  I maintain there are better ways.

      Sparing the rod and finding more enlightened ways to teach one's child by and large brings forth a healthier child.  Yes, absolutely, discipline your child.  Be appropriately firm yet loving.  Refrain from slapping, hitting, whacking, smacking.  This means you are out of control, especially if the parent does this when the parent is angry. This is one of the reasons we still have war.

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     Check out article @http://www.everydayhealth.com/kids-health/0807/parents-spank-slap-kids-in-public-more-often-than-thought.aspx?xid=aol_eh-news_9_20120806_&aolcat=HLT&icid=maing-grid10%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl17%7Csec3_lnk1%26pLid%3D189608

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Your Child Commits a Crime - What Now?

Your Child Commits a Crime - What Now?

     How would any mom feel if her child was the bullier, the rapist, the murderer, the thief, the racist?  An important aspect of mothering is to be in touch with one's child from early on.  Be in tune with who your child is rather than who you would like her or him to be.  Teach by living example plus be words the qualities of authenticity, love, integrity, contribution, creativity, intelligence, discernment, and more. 

     This means Mom is on a lifelong learning curve.  This benefits both her and her family.  Anyone who feels learning stops at any point is the person who has stopped at that point.  Then what happens?  That person actually can begin to de-volve.  No-thing stays the same in this third-dimension world.  Everything is in constant flux, whether seemintly gently or chaotically.  Plus, this dimension abhors a vacuum.  Sooo, if an apparent vacuum exists, it's instantaneous, as something will rush in to fill it.  We have to be responsible -- with love, balance and presence -- for what rushes into our momentary vacuums.

    This massive shooting in Colorado, and the subsequent behavior of the perpetrator has to be giving his mom nightmares.  What mom would refrain from asking: What did I do that I could have done differently?  What did I manage to refrain from seeing or knowing about my child?  What is going on in my child?  Without a mom being consumed with guilt -- which furthers usually nothing -- she does have to be responsible for herself and her knowledge of her child.  At the same time, once a child is an adult, which astrologically occurs at a person's first Saturn Return about the age of 28 1/2 to 20, that person has to take up the mantle of his/her own personhood.

     This shooter was 24.  Many may call this an adult, as 21 is when a person gets all their rights and responsibilities.  Come, now!  How many people are truly self-responsible by 21, never mind 18?  The 20s are a time of exploration of what being an adult entails.  Most people, unfortunately, are untaught about how to be personally responsible for their emotions, thoughts, actions, behavior.

     This is NOT a blame of the mom or dad, by the way.  This is an exploration of what a mom may go through when her child commits a horrific, especially unprovoked, crime.

    We all have to be cognizant of one another's mental states.  We have to develop our internal senses to such a degree of sensitivity that we can more easily sense when someone is "off."  This is quite different from someone simply being other than who we are, as we all are unique.  When someone has an off-balance internal mechanism, they emit a different kind of energy.  Even psychics can be fooled, so this is an area on which our species has to focus.

     For example, some of the politicians and social movements in this country and the world are truly repressive, yet under the guise of either or religious, stable, or the way-things-are.  No, they are truly out to hurt people.  People, again, we all have to wake up!  Also, sometimes Mom is the one who is asleep, teaching unfortunate values or devalues to her child.  Sometimes it's the child who teaches the mother.  We all have to be aware of what's high level and what's low.

      Know that this is a time of transformation.  Look at the clues in your own life to see where the Universe, your own Inner Compass, is urging you to grow, go, release, let go, move on, complete, open to new, have breakthroughts.  Also, yes, sometimes breakdowns are the doorway to breakthroughs.

     Blessings to ALL in this time of Change!!!!!

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Love,

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Moms, Grandmothers, Children, Sensitivity & the TSA

    What has happened to sensitivity, common sense, decency in the way adults treat little kids, whether those adults are agents of the TSA or others?  How is it that some TSA agents can ignore the normal upset of a 4-year-young girl when she goes to hug her grandmother, and, instead, the TSA agents call this child a "suspect," grab her, which has her yelling more, as the girl is frightened that she is about to be kidnapped?  Then, to make matters worse, the TSA defends the behavior of these very foolish agents -- @http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/25/tsa-defends-pat-down-of-c_n_1454410.html?icid=maing-grid10%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D155375.  

      As stated in the article, either the agents could have used a wand, put the girl through the scan again, or other techniques rather than look to isolate her in a room by herself (with strangers, something this child was taught to be wary of) or do a "modified" patdown, as the child had hugged her grandmother after the child had been scanned yet before the grandmother had been scanned.  Yes, we have to do something to "guard against terrorists," and, yes, terrorists can show up in any guise, age, background, racial grouping, manner of dress, and the like.  Yet and all, why do some adults throw any modicum of sense they may possess out the window and behave like petty dictators when faced with a circumstance of power-over someone?  Perhaps the TSA has to both hire people with more intelligence and the ability to think quickly in situations, as well as better train the agents they have.  Certainly, there has to be a shift.

      How do we have some measure of security while flying yet also protect people's individual rights and dignity?

      How do we each individually and we collectively as a nation live with integrity?  Do you live with integrity?  Does your partner?  Your child or your children?  Do you know what integrity is?  Integrity is being real, authentic, honest, present and complete in the moment, doing what you say you'll do, and being accountable and responsible for your word, behavior, actions, emotions.  When you "mess up," take responsibility and do it better the next time.

      Where are you with this?  This country?  Politicians?  The TSA?

      Share with me...........  Let's all grow and evolve here.

      Many blessings to you, me and all of us ongoingly!!!

Love,

Mama Heart

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Moms & Separating Church and State

   Who Speaks forGod/dess? Separation of Church and State Plus Individual Freedom

     When I read about an esteemed teacher, Emily Herx, being fired from her post from an Indiana Cartholic school and being called a "grave immoral sinner" because she in vitro fertilization or IVF in order to get pregnant -- @http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/25/catholic-school-ivf_n_1453524.html?1335386848&icid=maing-grid10%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl1%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D155337 -- I felt shocked. True, in this day and age, with so many "religious" people presuming to speak for the Creator of All, as though this person actually knows the MIND of I AM THAT I AM, perhaps I could have been more accepting of this piece of news.  No, I was shocked and dismayed.

     Had the Ms. Herx been a religious teacher at the school, expounding doctrine to the students, maybe, then, yes.  Had she even have been Catholic, and told she must teach the staunch tenets of this religion to the students, perhaps, maybe, yes.  However, she was neither Catholic, nor a teacher of religion, nor apprised by the school of the doctrine or tenets that were to be followed, and, yes, she was honest, authentic and forthright with the people at the school, and she is denounced by the school, maligned, and fired!!!!  The school officials, truly, are the people who are acting in an immoral manner.

     Ms. Herx is to be applauded.  Good for her to take the steps she needed to in order to become a mom.  I wonder how many of the school officials are truly loving, kind, open-hearted people exemplifying what any spiritual person knows is the core of just about any and all spiritual and religious paths.  This can be best explained as:

      Love the Creator with all your heart, all your soul and all your might (by whatever name you call the ALL IN ALL from which we all come and are part)

     Love your neighbor as yourself. (This, of course, presumes that a person loves her or him self, which, sadly, is too often lacking in this world, and is a journey in and of itself).

     What are your thoughts here?

    Where is the separation of church/religion and state?

    Should Catholic schools hire only religious Catholics, grill them in the absolute tenets of Catholic doctrine, and watch over the teachers to be sure these teachers are both teaching, speaking and living every single tenet?

     What is moral and what is judgment?

    How do you know when you are being led by Divine Guidance and when by egoistic wants?

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       May you be blessed.  May your family be blessed.  May we all be blessed.  May we all grow in consciousness, awareness, connection to the Infinite, and within ourselves.

       Many Blessings!!!!!!!!!!

Love,

Mama Heart

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Moms, Be Sure Your Child's Teacher Is Respectful

Moms, pay attention and know what's happening in your child's class. It's a sad sorrowful situation when school teachers in any way misuse and/or abuse students. Whether it's the situation in Georgia where a student was strip searched in front of his class (http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/02/15/georgia-student-sues-school-over-strip-search-in-front-classmates/?icid=maing-grid10%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl17%7Csec3_lnk1%26pLid%3D136134), a teacher insulting any student or what-have-you, this has to stop. Moms, know what is happening in your child's class, while also allowing your child to be his or her own person.

Just as there are people who ought to have refrained from procreating until they had some idea of how to love and parent, so there are people who need guidance in being teachers.

We are living in a time of both miracles and insanity.

Get involved. Be a volunteer, a class parent, a tutor, or, at the least, go to parent-teachers' meetings. Visit the school whenever there is an opportunity for parents to be involved. Speak with your son and/or daughter about what is occurring in class, what your child is learning, the kind of language being spoken. Know what is happening.

No parent is ever going to know everything, yet it is incumbent for a parent to be well informed. Teach your child to be aware and vigilant about respect, integrity, honesty. Be that way in your home.

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Blessings and Love,

Audrye
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Ladies, Time to Step UP!

Hi, Ladies (and Gents),





I'm writing this as a letter from my heart to yours. Being a mom is an honor, a sacred trust. Rather than being an intramural sport, with the person with the most children winning, as though people are points in a game, motherhood is best left to women (or men) with consciousness, awareness, heart, wisdom and energy. This can be anyone. Having some finances in place is also wise.





We have been bombarded in the media with teenage moms, moms with gazillions of children, moms who abuse their kids, addicted moms, all of whom need help and support for sure. However, there are many more intelligent, getting-through-the-day-and-night loving moms, whether married, partnered or single. Ladies, make your presence known in the media, in your community, your child/ren's schools, everywhere.





Pass on wisdom, rather than stupidity and ignorance.





Take part in politics. Be a presence wherever you are. Take pride in yourself. Dress nicely, which can be done inexpensively as well as expensively.





If you'd like help, get in touch with me at http://www.themothersmanual.com/ or call me toll-free at 1 888 75 PEACE or 1 888 757 3223.





I have to admit that, spiritual as I am, there are times I feel tapped out with the seemingly overwhelming amount of ignorance running around. What some people consider to be food, I ban from my home. Yes, I used to have a major food addiction, so I absolutely know what it's like. Too many people consider white flour and white sugar as foods; to the contrary, these are actually toxic substances, adding to the acidity of people, which can cause -- what? -- dis-ease.





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Ladies -- and Men -- we have to wise up! Now!!! Smaller families are wiser than larger. Do you have the finances for nannies? What are you doing to contribute to the health and wellness of the planet? Ask yourselves these questions.





All in all, I love us.





Had to get this out of me.





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My life is in major transition, all to the good, and I'll be sharing lots more, to help all of us.





Love,





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Finally, Babies Come With a Manual! THE MOTHER'S MANUAL

I've been given permission from the Mom in Charge, my daughter, to let people know that I'm to become a Grammie for the third time! When I let go of concerns for how much energy is entailed in being a great mom, planetary population issues, and anything else, yes, absolutely, I am totally thrilled! I already love totally my two amazing little grand-daughters, and my internal sense feels this next one is a boy. Whether a boy or girl, our prayers are for a healthy wonderful child.

This brings us to both the amazing parenting and the less-so I get to see as I live my life. People I know with any special-needs children astound me with their dexterity, flexibility, strength and tenderness as they do whatever they can to enhance their children's lives, while also having fulfillment for themselves and for one another. Easy? No. Are people doing it? Yes.

Then, there are the people who make the news with their misuse of their children and themselves. I know the current brand of spirituality sometimes seems to say that we have to be allowing of everything we see as this is a free-will universe zone, which it is, and, in various ways, we do. Nonetheless, we also have to teach one another and ourselves how to evolve so we enhance everything we are and do. Easy? No. Are people doing it? Yes.

Look at whatever is incomplete within yourself. Do you love yourself? Including every aspect of your body? Yes, every aspect. An ongoing journey for me. Treasure every inch. Love it. Nourish yourself with great nourishing food and water (Enagic Kangen Water - R). The best water is Enagic Kangen Water (R), so check out www.GoddessHeartWater.com.

If you are authentic about evolving, go to www.TheMothersManual.com, and get the ebook. For a taste, get the FREE Sampler ebook. No one does it all alone anymore; we are in the Age of Aquarius, and we are here to uplift ourselves and one another. Very different from saving anyone. That's outmoded thinking, believing, behaving. We are all part of Creation, all with the God/dess Spark within us, all daughters/sons of Creator-Source.

Right now, I'm reorienting myself to my current physical location after traveling to my home city. So, still getting centered and grounded. Love to you all. If you'd like to contact MamaHeart, call 1 888 75 PEACE or 1 888 757 3223. Email me at Audrye@TheMothersManual.com. Love and Blessings to us all!!!! Now is the time.

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