Your Child Commits a Crime - What Now?
How would any mom feel if her child was the bullier, the rapist, the murderer, the thief, the racist? An important aspect of mothering is to be in touch with one's child from early on. Be in tune with who your child is rather than who you would like her or him to be. Teach by living example plus be words the qualities of authenticity, love, integrity, contribution, creativity, intelligence, discernment, and more.
This means Mom is on a lifelong learning curve. This benefits both her and her family. Anyone who feels learning stops at any point is the person who has stopped at that point. Then what happens? That person actually can begin to de-volve. No-thing stays the same in this third-dimension world. Everything is in constant flux, whether seemintly gently or chaotically. Plus, this dimension abhors a vacuum. Sooo, if an apparent vacuum exists, it's instantaneous, as something will rush in to fill it. We have to be responsible -- with love, balance and presence -- for what rushes into our momentary vacuums.
This massive shooting in Colorado, and the subsequent behavior of the perpetrator has to be giving his mom nightmares. What mom would refrain from asking: What did I do that I could have done differently? What did I manage to refrain from seeing or knowing about my child? What is going on in my child? Without a mom being consumed with guilt -- which furthers usually nothing -- she does have to be responsible for herself and her knowledge of her child. At the same time, once a child is an adult, which astrologically occurs at a person's first Saturn Return about the age of 28 1/2 to 20, that person has to take up the mantle of his/her own personhood.
This shooter was 24. Many may call this an adult, as 21 is when a person gets all their rights and responsibilities. Come, now! How many people are truly self-responsible by 21, never mind 18? The 20s are a time of exploration of what being an adult entails. Most people, unfortunately, are untaught about how to be personally responsible for their emotions, thoughts, actions, behavior.
This is NOT a blame of the mom or dad, by the way. This is an exploration of what a mom may go through when her child commits a horrific, especially unprovoked, crime.
We all have to be cognizant of one another's mental states. We have to develop our internal senses to such a degree of sensitivity that we can more easily sense when someone is "off." This is quite different from someone simply being other than who we are, as we all are unique. When someone has an off-balance internal mechanism, they emit a different kind of energy. Even psychics can be fooled, so this is an area on which our species has to focus.
For example, some of the politicians and social movements in this country and the world are truly repressive, yet under the guise of either or religious, stable, or the way-things-are. No, they are truly out to hurt people. People, again, we all have to wake up! Also, sometimes Mom is the one who is asleep, teaching unfortunate values or devalues to her child. Sometimes it's the child who teaches the mother. We all have to be aware of what's high level and what's low.
Know that this is a time of transformation. Look at the clues in your own life to see where the Universe, your own Inner Compass, is urging you to grow, go, release, let go, move on, complete, open to new, have breakthroughts. Also, yes, sometimes breakdowns are the doorway to breakthroughs.
Blessings to ALL in this time of Change!!!!!
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